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Terri Mauro

Judging the People Who Judge

By September 17, 2013

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SupermarketOh, man, that time you were in the grocery store and your kid had a meltdown and everybody looked at you like you were the worst parent on earth? A post on the Matt Walsh Blog will give you flashbacks, and make you thankful for the kindness of strangers in the face of the unkindness of other strangers. Though Walsh is writing about a neurotypical kid having a no-you-can't-have-that-related freak-out, a post on Welcome to StimCity appreciates anyone who'll stick up for kids who don't react well to grocery-store overload, and recalls that sometimes kids with special needs don't have to make any particular commotion to get those kinds of judgmental looks. For some thoughts on taking your child out in public places where you may encounter people with a kindness impairment, read my articles on "staging" your child for successgoing to the malldining outworshiping with your child, and going to the playground. On the other hand, if you're just feeling ticked about other people's judgments, read the "We Expect Respect" manifesto and sign on.

Also in the special-needs news today:

+ A CNN.com post adds up how much it costs to have a kid with food allergies: "families [spend] an estimated $25 billion per year, or about $4,184 per child. About $4.3 billion of those costs involve direct medical fees such as medications and emergency treatments for allergic reactions, with $20.5 billion going to additional yearly costs to families." It features an interview with the blogger behind allergenmenumum, which looks like a great place to go for ideas on safe meals and treats. To find more good food-allergy bloggers, visit my listings of food-allergy news.

+ If you could use a feel-good story right about now, Love That Max has got one with a photo-filled post on "Parents who run races with their kids with disabilities," about the organization Athletes in Tandem. Looking for a different type of special-needs sports program, maybe something that doesn't actually involve physical activity on your part? I have an article on Sports for Special Needs that suggests some places to start looking.

+ School worries crop up on the Mom-Blog, which offers "5 Signs You Need to Call in a Special-Needs Advocate," and Thriving, the Boston Children's Hospital blog, which provides "5 tips for heading off to college with IBD." What's your school concern du jour? Share it on the Readers Respond page.

+ Today's Site of the Day spotlights an opportunity for kids with vision impairments to participate on brain-development studies at MIT.

Looking for more special-needs news? Check the dailyweekly, and topic folders.

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September 17, 2013 at 1:55 pm
(1) Rachel Kenyon says:

Thank you, Terri, for sharing.

If only people took that extra moment to think to themselves, “I just might have no idea what is going on here,” before they speak to situations that are already painful and exhausting to a parent trying their best.


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