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Weekday Reflections

April 2009

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Every weekday, Monday through Friday, the About.com Parenting Special Needs site offers an opportunity to read, reflect, and respond to a passage from a book, blog, or article. Here are the entries for April, 2009. Read the quote, then follow the link for questions and response suggestions.

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Wednesday, April 1: Different Views

Read: "Every child has a different view of what is going on around him, often based upon what is going on within him." -- Holly Anderson, Special Needs Bliss

Thursday, April 2: Clueless

Read: "There's no book out there that tells you what to do with some of these handicapped kids. They just hand you this baby with all these issues, and you're kind of clueless." -- Betty Hayes, TLC's Table for 12

Friday, April 3: Communication

Cover image courtesy of Woodbine House
Read: "No matter how long you have been married, you sometimes need to teach your partner what you need rather than get upset when he or she doesn't intuitively anticipate your needs. If you need your spouse to simply be close and listen without offering 'solutions,' clearly explain this. If you have already done so, do it again and again if necessary. When it comes to marriage, there is little 'one trial learning.'" -- Laura E. Marshak, Married With Special-Needs Children

Monday, April 6: Down Time

Read: "I don't know this place well — this place of no eminent crisis./This place where it's safe for me to relax my guard just a wee little bit./This place where relative security still doesn't quite equate with "normal."/Whatever "normal" is./This place of in between." -- Michelle, 5 Minutes for Special Needs

Tuesday, April 7: Changing Gears

Read: "In life as a caregiver, like most of life, adapting and adjusting are required. Change gears to go uphill, change gears to pick up speed on level ground, change gears again to coast downhill. If you know the road well, you’ll do fine. But who among us ever knows the road ahead?" -- Lynn M. Rickert, PedalingBackwards

Wednesday, April 8: Disappointment

Cover image courtesy of Annie Lubliner Lehmann
Read: "Each hope was followed by disappointment. We might as well have been chasing butterflies with a torn net." -- Annie Lubliner Lehmann, author of The Accidental Teacher, writing about her son's autism in the New York Times

Thursday, April 9: Advice

Read: "There is a tendency for people to give unsolicited advice to young parents, and that seems to double when it involves a child with a disability. Not only does the amount of advice double, but the relative distance from reality increases exponentially." -- Guest Blogger, Left Brain Right Brain

Friday, April 10: Peacemaking

Read: "It occurred to me today that a great deal of what we do as advocates for our children involves peacemaking. We pave the way, we explain, we smooth things over. We connect with people, and we connect people to each other. We build relationships, we forge ties, we collaborate, cooperate, and coordinate. We build concensus. We engineer agreements." -- Joan Celebi, The Special Needs Parent Coach

Monday, April 13: Defusing

Cover image courtesy of Jessica Kingsley Publishing
Read: "The life of a special needs child is overwhelming. The treatment for his over-reaction is to defuse the situation, not inflame it." -- Martin L. Kutscher, M.D., Kids in the Syndrome Mix

Tuesday, April 14: Self-Image

Cover image courtesy of Western Psychological Services
Read: "There are three things that can contribute to a negative self-image: the way in which the nervous system is functioning, the feelings of frustration and inadequacy that arise when the child cannot do things well, and other people's negative reactions to what the child does." -- A. Jean Ayres, Sensory Integration and the Child

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