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Readers Respond: Add Your Name to the 'We Expect Respect' Manifesto

Responses: 140


From the article: We Expect Respect
Do you agree with my manifesto demanding respect for all children with special needs and their families? Add your name and your message.

Inclusion and compassion

I completely agree. I am the mom of a beautiful and brilliant 10 year old who has life threatening food allergies. I am frustrated with the school system for not dealing firmly with parents who insist on certain snacks for classroom parties, even when there are alternatives and those particular snacks have allergens that can cause a life threatening reaction to my daughter. I wish people had basic courtesies about making sure every one stays safe and feels included.
—Guest MSN


We have three grandsons with disabilities, I have seen the looks when they are out in public. Even at multi-family gatherings I have hear other kids call them freaks, and won't play on the same playground with them. I will alway advocate for them to be accepted and are entitled to respect.
—Guest Judith Disher

Yes I agree

Very true. They are indeed 'very special' and need to be given the respect and importance they truly deserve
—Guest Rajeswari

special needs

I have 5 with special needs and often I also get whats wrong, why did you take them, etc. They say you are a special person for adopting them, I say no, they are special and I am very blessed to have them.
—Guest Smile

darn straight!!!

It always amazes me when supposed adults turn into bullies and spoiled brats the moment someone with special needs wants the same things and same rights everyone else has. Accomodations are NOT special rights, they simply level the playing field so everyone can have an equal shot. We should be allowed to label these supposedly typical people with the label they really need. Morally disabled.
—Guest Mikki


Cannot agree more. Our kids demand our respect. Being the father of a 6 year old autistic child, the effort that we as parent go through to get them services they deserve from school, state or federal government or insurance agencies is painful and, truly, dis-respectful. Regardless, we need to continue to raise our voices collectively to make these authorities hear us.

I will fight for my daughter matter what

There will be no more exclusion for our kids with special needs! We demand respect and the right to be heard AND have something done about it! We won t shut up until something is done about finding the causes, oh my bad, excuse me, they DID figure out what some causes could be; BUT CHOOSE to ignore them! We won t stop until autism is eradicated! That is a promise!
—Guest Theresa Morales


Sure I add my name and my son's name to the Manifesto. We have been dealing with this for over 24 yrs of his 25 yrs of life and have learn the ones who have the MOST control over his life and lives of others like him in the federal and state government perfer NOT to see them or listen to them when making life and death decisions. They group them, the disabled with those who use drugs, being disabled was NOT a choice where as using drugs WAS a choice. Seperate them, help both BUT make the right decision for once and look them in the eye.
—Guest max weavil jr

Respect Is The Right Thing To Do

Growing up with a severely disabled younger brother, to my work now as Marketing and Communications Coordinator for MetSchools, who manages some incredible special education private schools in NYC, my entire life has been devoted to help serving the disabled community who deserve more than just respect, but love and admiration for the hardship many endure publicly and privately. I respect families like my own, who did the best they could to raise their children in usually the most challenging of circumstances to teachers, therapists and care providers who go the extra mile to care for kids of many disabilities. It is always important to be a voice for the misunderstood and voiceless. Having my brother in my life has made me a better human being and changed my life in ways I never expected...I'm so proud of everything he accomplishes on a daily basis. Working for these schools as well is such a pleasure knowing how we are helping our kids and families! Thanks!

oh so new

I am very new to the 18p deletion diagnosis for my son. I knew something was wrong and always had to stand up for him. Now that he is 3 and his behavior is changing, it feels like i have to constantly explain. My son demands the same respect and tolerance as any other kid.
—Guest mica

I will speak for those who can't.

I am a assistant to a little boy with autism. He may not speak but he has taught me sooo much. He is amazing. It is my job to convience everyone else now!!!He brings me so much joy. I feel blessed to spend 6 hours a day with him.(:
—Guest BLawson7474

Special Need son

I have a son with autism. My husband and I do have people look at us like we have no control over my son. I try not look at them while they are staring at us. I get sad sometimes when my son can't play with the other kids as a normal child. Not able to play sports. I pray every day for strength and patience to raise my son.
—Guest Shaheerah

I Agree!!!

We are blessed everyday by our oldest daughter who has special needs. She is visually impaired and has a mild Learning disability. She is the sweetest child and is so hilarious. Whenever I have a bad day at work, she will always say something that makes me laugh so hard I forget about everything else. I agree with all the responses I have read and hopefully we all can continue to advocate for all our children and demand the respect they so much deserve. Yes, she gets the stares and we get the "what's wrong with her" questions sometimes. My anwser is NOTHING! Our first daughter died shortly after birth and then GOD sent Katie! HE sent our first daughter to "MOLD" me, because I was one who didn't realize it don't matter who you are, your status in life, or what you think; a special needs child might come into your life. THANK GOD!!! Special Needs children are a Gift from GOD and a blessing. Keep the faith and keep Expecting respect!
—Guest billyv2000

Sticking my name on this list

I'm one of the kids with special needs myself. I'm a 13 year old girl with autism. We expect respect as well. Just because we're not the same as most people doesn't mean we're freaks who don't deserve life -- got it, society? We deserve the same amount of respect you give your fellow person. Which isn't a whole lot, I know, but it's better than what we tend to get.
—Guest Stealthy


I have a wonderful child on the spectrum he fortunately has friends at school. There are many of our special children who have no friends always remember that could happen to any one of us. Be mindful of what you say and how it is said. Treat everyone the way you would like to be treated. THINK BEFORE YOU SPEAK OR ACT!

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